CONSTRUCTIVE NEUTRALITY
Why
did I pick up this word to talk about. It is defined in the Webster’s
Dictionary as the quality or state of being neutral or a refusal to take part
in a war between two powers.
But
is this true when it comes down to personal relationships? It is very easy to
say “I am neutral so do not pull me into your conflict. I do not want to take
sides”. Is this desirable? Are we backing out since we do not want to spoil
relationships with either party. It appears so. Each one to his judgement.
However is this not a form of cowardice? Being neutral does not mean standing
aside and watching both the parties fight. It takes a lot of courage to
understand both points of view and speak your mind out, in an effort to make
them understand the unreasonability of their stand and bring about a
rapproachment. You tell them where their stand is reasonable and where it is
not. I would call this Constructive Neutrality.
Why
poke your nose into others business. Yes if you are not really concerned. But
if you have shown concern throughout your relationship with either of them, you
are bound to feel as to their well being, and it requires a point of view from
outside, in any conflict, for any resolution. It requires a lot of courage to
do some soul searching and speak ones mind out. Do we have it? If yes, a number
of conflicts can be brought to an end. Mind you, this is not interference, it
is only concern. That is what I call Constructive Neutrality. Whether you agree
or not, I have spoken my mind out.
1 comment:
Speaking your mind out takes a lot of courage. We live in this world with a lot of facades. We are always trying to project something that we aspire to be. It is because of this effort made to present ourselves in an acceptable form, that we avoid taking sides.
Even when we can distinguish between right and wrong we usually do not have the courage to boldly tell the wrong person about his/her mistake. It is all about keeping our own image intact!It is all about courage!
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